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August 2017

The Empty Nest…So, What’s Next?

Eleven years ago, this month, my baby girl went off to college. Even though I’d known it was coming and tried to prepare myself mentally, it was still a blow. Ironically, it almost didn’t happen.

A Little Background…

Though you’d never know it now, our youngest wasn’t the most motivated student. She struggled with ADHD, and though I was never formally diagnosed, I did too. Both of us learned to survive and thrive in a non-ADHD world.

Homework was always an issue with her. Remembering it, doing it, and turning it in.

Just before spring break of her senior year, we received a progress report showing she was failing Algebra 2. She had to pass, with a C, to get into college. In fact, she’d already been accepted and we may have even attended her college orientation at that point.

The teacher said she didn’t see how our daughter could pass the class. But, she buckled down, made up her homework over spring break, and passed her final. She passed the class! It came right down to the wire.

“The Day” Has Arrived

That story relates to what occurred the day we left our youngest at college, and joined the ranks of empty nesters.

After getting her all settled into her dorm, it was time to go. As soon as we rounded the corner of the hall, I started sobbing. It’s such an ugly sob that my face is buried in my husband’s chest, and he has to lead me out of the dorm, down the street, to our car.

As we get settled in the car, my husband (who is trying to cheer me up) says, “don’t worry, she’ll be home before Christmas.”

His statement is based on the fact that we have had to push, prod, prompt, institute weekly schoolwork monitoring, and generally micromanage her schoolwork to get to this point. He thinks she won’t be able to cope in college without us there to push her.

The good news is that my husband was wrong! And, it’s probably the only time he’s been so thrilled to be wrong. She didn’t turn into the best student overnight, but she stuck with it and graduated from college.

Mission Accomplished

When our girls both graduated from college, my husband and I were almost more excited than they were. Although they’d done all the work, he and I accomplished our goal of providing them with what we considered the best start for adulthood.

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Heather received her BA in Public Administration (left) and Danielle her MA in Counseling (right), June 2011

 

What’s Next?

While my daughter was loving college in “The City” (she started at San Francisco State), I was at home wondering what was next for me. Mentally, I was at a crossroads. We lived in a really small town and I didn’t have a real network of friends for support.

This was before Facebook (for non-college students) and blogs. It was the age of My Space and Yahoo Groups. I looked for groups relating to empty nesters and didn’t have much luck. That’s one reason, all these years later, I started this blog.

The empty nest can be a really rough time in some parents’ lives. I was emotionally invested in raising my children, and at the time I only worked 12 hours a week. I enjoyed being a homemaker, but I wasn’t used to the quiet and abundance of free time I now had.

It took me about a year to get my bearings and adapt to this new phase of life.

Getting Your Bearings

Once I got my bearings, my life got so much better. I had the time to focus on myself and doing the things that gave me happiness, like cooking. Cooking was fun again because I didn’t have to satisfy picky teenagers. I had a husband who loved what I made. And, no more chauffeuring kids, monitoring curfews, or supervising homework!

Oh, there were still kid issues to deal with and plenty of worries, like when my daughters didn’t answer their cell phones after a night out. I still worried about their safety, a lot.

Around the one year mark of my empty nest, I left my part-time job for a challenging, full-time sales job. After spending years as the homemaker/house cleaner, I hired a cleaning woman.

My husband’s career was doing well, too, and suddenly, paying for two kids in college wasn’t so financially draining. We started redecorating our home and taking exciting vacations. Life was very good.

Overlooking San Juan, Puerto Rico, 2011

 

Welcome to The Feathered Nester

If you find yourself here because this is your new phase and you are struggling, I can relate. In case you missed it, here is my post on coping strategies for surviving and thriving with an empty nest (HERE). If you’re not struggling, that’s awesome. You are way ahead of the curve.

I named my blog “The Feathered Nester” because even though my nest has emptied out, I’m still feathering away. I am all about home and family: creating beautiful memories, working on our dream home, and loving on my husband, daughters, and my grandchildren.

I’m so glad you’ve joined me!

Hawaii, October 2015

Meal Plan for the Upcoming Week 8/28 to 9/3

First I want to everyone for their comments on The Feathered Nester’s FB page, and here on the blog. I really appreciate your feedback!

Recapping Last Week’s Meal Plan

We ate well here at our house last week and I hope you did, too! Did you make any of the meals at your house? If so, I hope you’ll share how they turned out. If you missed it, here is a link to last week’s meals (LINK).

As I was preparing the Halibut en papilotte on Thursday, I decided to use my steam oven instead of parchment paper. Here are some pictures of preparation and the finished product.

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I bought this salad from Costco and it was delicious! And, it’s healthy to boot. I would definitely recommend it.

 

 

New For This Week

The higher carb foods in the meal plan are italicized. I’ve cut back on carbs like sugars, starches, and grains in my diet, but my husband hasn’t. I thought that would make it easier for those following a lower carb diet.

To keep the sodium content low, I do not add any salt while cooking to my foods. When preparing the ribs, my husband sets aside my portion for no-salt seasoning. And, since I’m not preparing the ribs, I asked my husband – who is an absolute boss at grilling and smoking meats – to share how he prepares them. I will be posting the whole ribs recipe as a separate post later this week.

Meal Plan for the Upcoming Week

Monday: Chicken Piccata with mashed potatoes and green beans.
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Chicken piccata (unbreaded) recipe: 4 boneless, thinly sliced chicken breasts, 1 Tbsp. olive oil, 3 Tbsp. diced onion, 1 tsp minced garlic, juice of 1 lemon, 1/3 cup no-salt added chicken broth, 1 Tbsp, capers, 2 Tbsp. unsalted butter. Saute chicken breasts in olive oil on medium-high heat for 4 minutes on each side. While cooking, rinse and dry capers to remove excess sodium. Add onion and garlic and cook 1 minute. Add lemon juice and chicken broth. Simmer until bubbly. Remove from heat and add butter and capers.  Select your own recipe for mashed potatoes, add no-salt added canned or fresh green beans, and your meal is ready.

Tuesday: Taco Salad with guacamole and salsa

I love taco salad! It’s quick and easy to make and you can substitute ingredients to suit any diet plan. I usually use ground beef, but you can use any kind of meat or pinto or black beans. My husband likes both meat and beans in his.

For low-carb: After preparing ground beef, I generously layer torn or shredded leaf lettuce, the ground beef, grated cheese, diced tomatoes, onions, sliced or diced avocado, and top with salsa and sour cream. I don’t use any dressing, just the salsa and sour cream.

For my husband, I add tortilla chips and pinto or black beans. I use this seasoning for the ground beef: 1 Tbsp. chili powder, 1 tsp. cumin, 1/2 tsp. of each: onion powder, garlic powder, smoked paprika, and a pinch of chili pepper. After cooking the ground beef, I add the juice of one lime for added flavor. Guacamole recipe is in last week’s meal plan.

Wednesday: Tomatillo and Garlic Shrimp with cilantro rice and green salad

 

The recipe: 1 pound of shrimp (I use frozen raw shrimp and buy the largest size I can find, usually 21-25 per pound), 1 pound of tomatillos, 1 Tbsp. olive oil, 1 small onion, 1 minced jalapeño pepper, 2 cloves of minced garlic, 3 Tbsp. unsalted butter (divided), 1/2 c. fresh cilantro, 1 Tbsp. lime juice. Rinse shrimp and remove outer shells/tails. Remove husks and stems from tomatillos, rinse well, and dice. Dice the onion and mince the jalapeño pepper. Use a skillet that has a fitted lid, as you’ll need the lid later in recipe. Saute the onions and jalapeños in 1 Tbsp. butter and 1 Tbsp. olive oil until translucent. Add garlic and cook until fragrant. Add tomatillos, cover with lid and reduce heat to low. Cook until softened, about 10 minutes. Add 2 Tbsp. butter and 2 Tbsp. water, and shrimp. Increase heat to medium and cook shrimp turn they turn pink. For cilantro rice: cook rice as usual, adding the juice of one lime to water. When done, I add 1/4 c. minced cilantro and stir. I use bagged green salad.

Thursday: Stuffed Bell Peppers

This is my favorite recipe: Low-Carb Stuffed Bell Peppers

Friday:  Smoked/BBQ Ribs with coleslaw and garlic bread

My husband likes to use baby back ribs because they are more meaty and less fatty. How do you know how many ribs to make? Well, it’s based on a number of factors really. Are you having a lot of sides? Do you want leftovers? It also depends on how hearty everyone’s appetites are. My husband likes having leftovers, so he makes about 1/2 rack per person. If you don’t want leftovers then plan 3-4 ribs for less hearty appetites.

He says: “I’m no BBQ expert, but this is a method I have tried several times with great success.” Season the baby back ribs the day before you BBQ them. Rinse and dry the ribs. Remove the membrane on underside of the ribs. Apply a light coating of vegetable or olive oil. Then liberally apply the seasoning, wrap them in clear wrap and let them sit in fridge overnight. I use the 3-2-1 method. Three hours on grill/smoker, two hours wrapped in aluminum foil on grill or oven, then one hour back on grill. This is the short version. I’ll post the whole recipe later this week on Wednesday or Thursday, so check back.

Saturday: Roasted Pork Tenderloin with kale salad and Hawaiian sweet rolls

I buy a pre-marinated pork tenderloin, looking for those low in sodium. Before cooking, I rinse and dry the tenderloin to remove even more sodium. I’ll use the bagged kale salad from Costco, shown above. Before I cut back on the carbs, I was using the Hawaiian sweet rolls. Have you every tried them? They are low in sodium. If you’ve looked at the sodium content in breads you’ll know what a find they are.

Sunday: Dinner out.
This’s the menu for this week. Please share your experiences following along with my meal plans and give me your suggestions for future meals!

 

Planning Your Perfect Vacation, Part 3

This is the last installment of planning your perfect vacation. Here is a link to Part 1 and Part 2, in case you missed it. Honestly, working on this post couldn’t have come at a more perfect time.

Maui in the Fall

We’re going to Maui next month and we had a hiccup in our accommodations this week.

For the longest time, we’re wanted to stay at Honua Kai, but each time I looked, their rates were really high. This year when I looked, their rates seemed much more reasonable. So we booked a 10-night stay with my sister and her husband.

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Honua Kai

On Monday, we got an email from our vacation rental agency telling us that starting the week before our visit, three of their four pools would be closed for resurfacing and maintenance. One of the biggest draws is their lovely pools! Since we spend most of our day at the pool, we took the opportunity to get a full-refund and book with another resort.

Booking a month out doesn’t leave you with the kind of inventory that you have three or months prior. It took us a few days to find a suitable replacement property. But, we are happy with the place we found at Ka’anapali Ali’i. The last time we were in Maui, we spent several nights at the Hyatt nearby and walked by the Ali’i almost every night and really liked their property.

Ka’anapali Beach in front of Ka’anapali Ali’i

Free Airfare? You Bet!

So, on to vacation planning…

My biggest tip when planning airline travel is to find an airline or two you like and get their credit card to build points. We have taken a number of free flights using our points. Points add up really quickly, and you usually get between 35,000 to 75,000 points when you activate your new card.

Alaska Airlines offers a companion fare of $99 a year (plus taxes) to their credit card holders. We used that for several years to fly to Hawaii in the fall. Unfortunately, now that we have moved, their flights from our local airport to Hawaii haven’t worked for us. I am thinking about cancelling that card and getting one with United, who has better flights from our local airport.

We also have an American Airlines card and have already taken two free flights with our points. You can get a flight with American points for as low as 12,500 points one-way. Our last flight to Florida and back was all taken with points.

St. Marten, 2011

My second tip is to take advantage of websites like www.kayak.com. It’s an easy way to compare flights. Also, kayak has a “fare predictor” app that recommends whether you should buy now or wait to book your flight. I have found that particularly helpful on deciding when to book flights.

I’m no expert, but I believe that flying mid-week is usually cheaper. When booking flights, I usually click on the box that says my dates are flexible. Then I can compare the cost on adjoining dates to find the cheapest day to fly.

And You’re Ready!

Well, we’ve covered about everything you need to play your perfect vacation. Deciding where to go, choosing your accommodations, and now how to get three.

I think you’re ready to plan the perfect trip. I hope you do so soon!

In the comments below, share with us your favorite trips and tips. You can be sure I will be blogging about Maui next month!

This Week’s Meals for 8/21 to 8/27

Last week was a great week of meals at my house. I appreciated having a meal plan to follow, and created some delicious meals. And, I even remembered to take some pictures to share. Often, I  get so wrapped in what I’m doing that I forget to take pictures.

For those of you with dietary restrictions, my meals should be easy to modify. For example, I leave out salt in my meals, and I’m avoiding gluten and starches right now due to my Meinere’s disease.

To recap last week’s meals, we had grilled bison for the first time on Monday, and it was great! Very tender and tasted just like beef but it’s much healthier for you. Tuesday was chicken fajitas (I’m sharing a picture of the guacamole below). On Thursday, I took photos of the Italian meatballs and even devoted a post to the recipe HERE:

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This Week’s Meal Plan

Monday: Teriyaki & Ginger Chicken Thighs with Asian Cashew Chopped Salad.

Very simple recipe. Marinade 4 chicken thighs in 8 oz. teriyaki sauce, 2 Tbsp. of sesame oil, 2 tsp each of minced garlic, ginger, lemon juice, and brown sugar or sugar substitute. Grill or bake at 350 for 30 – 35 minutes. I use pre-made, bagged Taylor Farms Asian Cashew Chopped salad.

Tuesday: Carnitas Tacos with Guacamole.

Carnitas are so easy to make. I share my crock pot recipe HERE. The smell of this dish cooking will make your mouth water! My secret ingredient for guacamole is Montreal Steak Seasoning (or Mrs. Dash’s Fiesta Lime) and fresh lime juice. Add chopped onion, a little jalapeño, cilantro, and mash it up. Check out my guacamole masher below, it’s one of my most used kitchen utensils. 

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Making Guacamole
Wednesday: Halibut en Papillote.

Fancy French words for in parchment paper. Each parchment packet contains 1 fillet of halibut, 1 Tbsp. of unsalted butter, 1 tsp of lemon pepper, 1 tsp of minced shallots, and a pinch of salt. You can add thinly sliced lemons, mushrooms, or matchstick bell pepper, if you prefer. Fold up all sides, crimping edges, and bake at 350 for 15 minutes.

Thursday: Pulled Pork Sandwiches with Coleslaw.

I use leftover Carnitas from Tuesday. Add barbecue sauce when reheating the Carnitas. Add it to Brioche buns, my family love these. We usually get ours from Wal-Mart or their Neighborhood Market. I use pre-shredded, bagged cabbage and add Marie’s coleslaw dressing.

Friday: Dinner Out.
Saturday: Grilled Steaks and Caprese Salad.

I love caprese salad and it’s really easy to make at home. I buy the sliced, fresh logs of mozzarella cheese and use Roma or Heirloom tomatoes. Slice the tomatoes as thick as the mozzarella cheese, then alternate them across your plate. Sprinkle with sliced fresh basil leaves and balsamic vinegar. Add you favorite grilled steak as your entrée.

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Sunday: Smoked Pork Chops with Roasted Red Potatoes and Applesauce.

Since our pork steaks are so thick, smoking is a great way to cook them. Combine ¼ brown sugar or substitute, and 1 Tbsp. each of ground fennel, cumin, coriander, and paprika, with 1 tsp of salt and pepper in a bowl. After drying your pork chops with paper towels, rub with spice mixture at least one hour before cooking. Grill at 275 degrees for about 50-60 minutes, until meat registers 145 degrees. For roasted potatoes, cube red potatoes and shake in a large Ziploc bag with 1 Tbsp. olive oil, 2 tsp Italian seasoning, and 1 tsp salt and pepper. Bake at 350 degrees for 20-30 minutes, until golden on top.

Here’s to another terrific week of meals! Give me some feedback below on the recipes and meal planning:

Italian Meatball Casserole Dinner

Since it came out terrific, I had to share the recipe for this week’s Italian Meatball Casserole. I started a new series here on the blog called Weekly Meal Plans (see HERE). This recipe was listed for Thursday night. It is one of the best low-sodium meals I have made so far!

I used a recipe from Modern Low Carb Recipes as the basis for the meatballs, but modified the sauce and toppings. What I loved about their meatball recipe is that the meatballs tasted so close to Italian sausage, minus all the salt and fat.

Assembling The Casserole

Make the meatballs first, so that the flavors of the seasonings and the ground pork can meld together in the fridge.

Missing from photo – the red wine!

 

I mixed the ground pork with the seasonings and red wine in the clear bowl, then put it in the fridge for a few hours.

Then, I assembled the meatballs, placed them on a cookie sheet, and returned to the fridge until I was ready.

 

 

Next, I turned to creating the sauce.

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My favorite starter for marinara sauce

 

The sauce cooking

 

Browned the meatballs

Assembling the casserole

 

Ready for the oven!

15 minutes later, I added the ricotta and mozzarella cheeses, basil, and parsley, then returned it to the oven for another 15 minutes.

And it’s ready to eat!

The Ingredients

  • 1 pound ground pork
  • 1/4 cup red wine
  • 2 Tbsp fennel seeds
  • 1 tsp red pepper flakes
  • 1 tsp paprika
  • 1 tsp garlic powder
  • 2 Tbsp olive oil
  • 2 Tbsp chopped fresh Italian parsley
  • 2 Tbsp chopped fresh basil
  • 1 tsp dried oregano
  • 1 container Pomi strained tomatoes
  • 1 Tbsp Italian seasoning
  • 1 cup Italian cheese blend
  • 8 oz. fresh mozzarella, small balls or slices into 1/4″ slices
  • 8 oz. fresh ricotta cheese
  • 3 cloves minced garlic, divided
  • 1/2 chopped onion, divided

Instructions

Combine ground pork, red wine, and the next 4 spices in a medium bowl. Mix with your hands and refrigerate for at least 1 hour. Use a melon baller to scoop meatball mixture into similarly sized meatballs and roll by hand into a round shape. You should have 18-20 meatballs. If not making right away, return to refrigerator on a cookie sheet until ready to use.

In a medium saucepan, add Pomi tomatoes, Italian seasoning, 1 clove of minced garlic, and 1/4 cup of chopped onion. Bring to a boil and simmer until thickened.

Heat olive oil in a skillet on medium to medium-high heat until shimmering. Add remaining onion and garlic and cook until translucent. Add meatballs to skillet and brown on all sides, about 6-8 minutes. Preheat oven to 375 degrees.

To assemble the casserole: add half of the sauce to the bottom of a 13 x 9″ low-sided casserole dish, then place meatballs on top of the sauce, evenly spacing them in the dish. Pour remaining sauce over the meatballs and top with Italian blend cheese. Bake, uncovered for 15 minutes.

Remove casserole from the oven, place mozzarella cheese and ricotta cheese in spaces between the meatballs. Top with chopped parsley and basil. Return to the oven for an additional 15 minutes. Let rest for 5 minutes before serving.

 

Without pasta

 

With pasta for the hubby

 

This turned out to be a delicious meal! I couldn’t wait to share it with my readers.

New Series! Weekly Meal Planning

 

Meal Planning

Since I began my sodium-restricted diet, I’ve been winging my meal planning. Learning how to eat with low-sodium hasn’t been easy. It’s coming up on three months now, so I feel like I am finally getting the hang of it. Cooking at home was only challenging for the first several weeks. Eating out is still rough, though I feel like I’m a little more confident now.

My goal for the blog is to start sharing my meal plans through a weekly series. I’m not sure how I will handle September because we will be gone for a few weeks. I may just share photos of our trips and some of our memorable meals? Anyway, even though this week has begun, I am going to start with this week.

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This Week’s Meal Plan

Monday: Bison Rib Eye Steaks with Sliced Tomatoes and Smashed Red Potatoes. I have been wanting to try Bison steaks! I’ll post in the comments how they turn out.

Tuesday: Chicken Fajitas with Guacamole and Pinto Beans. This is such an easy meal. The fajitas will be grilled, I am making the guacamole from scratch, and I lucked out in finding no-salt beans. My secret ingredient for guacamole – wait for it – is Montreal Steak Seasoning and fresh lime juice.

Wednesday: Dinner out.

Thursday: Italian Meatball Casserole and Mixed Salad. This is a low-carb dish I found a while back. I’m going to make in lower-sodium.

Friday: Fish Tacos with Black Beans and Roasted Corn. Since my meals are low in sodium, I have been relying on roasting to beef up the taste of my meals. We have some leftover corn that I will have roasted on the grill, then toss with lime juice, cilantro, and black beans as a side dish. The fish will be blackened on the grill. I use shredded cabbage and green salsa on top.

Saturday: Chicken Thighs with Lime-Cilantro Rice and Green Beans. My husband made awesome grilled chicken for a family barbecue here last weekend. I am going to have him grill up more of it.

Sunday: Pork Chops with Roasted Red Potatoes and Ranch Salad. Costco was having a sale on pork chops last weekend, so this will be on the menu in the next several weeks. These are really thick pork chops. I am thinking of having my husband sear the chops on the grill, then I’ll finish them off in the steam oven. I might make an apple or peach relish to go on top.

Let me know what you think of this new blog series I’m planning!

For the Love of Purses – My History

The Beginning

The one thing I am really attached to is my purse. I must have been about 10 when I got my first one. I have a photo I’ll share of me in the summer of 1976. That’s me holding a purse! It was a few months before I turned 11. I believe my mom made that purse for me out of some upholstery scraps. Maybe that was the beginning of my love of purses?

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Summer of 1976. Yes, that is a purse I’m holding on the left.

My Evolution of Purses

Over the years I’ve owned different designer handbags. I had Dooney & Bourke purses around 15 years ago, then Coach became the rage. I remember how excited I was when I got my first Coach purse. It was about $300, which I considered a lot to spend on a purse 11 years ago. The purse is made of monogram fabric with leather trim and suede flowers. I loved that purse! For a few years, it was my spring and summer bag.

First Coach purse

 

Then I got another, really nice Coach purse for my birthday in 2007. It’s one of the best made purses I’ve ever owned and it’s fairly heavy for a purse. The lining is silky, with a Tattersall design and the exterior is cloth monogram and leather. After I got this bag, I alternated it with the my first Coach purse. One for the spring and summer and the new one for fall and winter. I haven’t used either of those purses for many years, but I can’t bear to get rid of them.

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Love this Coach bag, it’s so well made.

Then Along Came…Louis Vuitton

Several years ago, I moved on from Coach to Michael Kors then to Tory Burch. In 2014, my husband got me my first Louis Vuitton handbag for my birthday when we were in Maui. The Portobello in Damier Ebene in my favorite style of bag, the hobo bag.

My First – the Louis Vuitton Portobello

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The Louis Vuitton bag my Portobello

 

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I was so excited about getting this purse that I snapped a photo for my girls to show them.

 

I used the heck out of that purse for the next two years. I’m a tad disappointed with the quality of my Portobello. The leather shoulder handle shows a lot of wear on it, especially on the edges. After I joined the PurseForum, I read about cracking along the sides of the canvas near the zipper. When I looked at mine closely, sure enough I had cracks, too. Louis Vuitton has a great warranty on their bags and I could have returned it for a credit towards a new bag (since it’s been discontinued). I chose not to, though, because this bag is sentimental to me and I still use it. My sister had a problem with her two-year-old Artsy bag and they exchanged it for a brand-new one right in the store.

 

How it looks now

 The Neverfull

Earlier this year, I bought the Louis Vuitton Neverfull before we went on our Caribbean cruise. I planned to use it as a carry-on. Now that I live almost 3 hours from the closest LV store, I decided to try their website. I was really easy to navigate and purchase on. Here a picture of how it arrived:

 

The Turenne in MM

A few months ago, I purchased my current favorite LV favorite, the MM Turenne “preloved.” The Turenne is a really versatile bag, it can he handheld, a shoulder bag, or worn cross-body. I posted some pictures to show what I usually keep inside it. It is my first bag in Monogram. I tend to be a real matchy-match gal, so I was worried about how my Damier Ebene SLGs (small leather goods or accessories) would look with it. But, I needn’t have worried. They look great together as you can see:

 

Earlier this year, I ordered the Louis Vuitton Neverfull GM in Damier Ebene for our Spring Break trip. It was hard to choose between the GM and the MM, the Damier Ebene and the Monogram. In the end, I chose the GM in Damier Ebene because I wanted a big travel bag and the Damier Ebene leather trim is treated. The GM sized worked well as a carry on. I’ve also used it a few times for overnight trips, too. It held two days of clothes, a swimsuit, undergarments, two pairs of shoes, my makeup case, and straightener!

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My newest LV bag is the Speedy Bandouliere 35 in Damier Ebene. I’ve only used this a few times. It comes with a strap that works as a shoulder strap and an extension that makes it into a cross-body. I can see myself using this purse a lot this fall and winter. I’m always a little worried about getting the vachetta trim on the Turenne wet or stained, so I doubt that I will be using it as much after this summer. On my last trip out-of-town, I used the Speedy as my handbag and the Neverfull as my weekend bag. They looked great together.

Do you have certain styles of handbags you love? Personally, I prefer those that lay flatter against my side. How about designers? Share your favorites!

A Convection Steam Oven. What’s That?

Picking out appliances for our kitchen remodel was more challenging than I anticipated. This would be my dream kitchen in our forever home, so I put a lot of thought and research into it. I chose the cooktop first since it would be the hardest working appliance. In a post about my range top (see HERE), I discuss why I chose Thermador. The selling point was their star-shaped burners and the ability to easily clean under the burners.

The control panel

 

It was at the appliance showroom that I discovered convection steam ovens (which I will call steam oven for short). Our salesperson told us that they could do everything a microwave does, except reheat coffee and pop popcorn. While I was mulling over getting a steam oven instead of a microwave over our wall oven, I attended a Thermador lunch and learn. They prepared the food served in the steam oven (one of the benefits is that flavors don’t inner-mix). The pork tenderloin and dessert were amazing. After that, I was pretty sold on the steam oven.

A Rough Start

From the beginning, I had a hard time getting the steam oven to operate in the steam oven. After a few months of ignoring the issue, I finally did some troubleshooting. This led me to believe that it definitely wasn’t working properly. Ultimately, Thermador replaced the unit for a brand-new one, only for us to find out that it was an electrical problem! For some reason, the electricians installed the wrong type of electrical cord during the remodel.

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The 24″ steam oven with stainless steel surround to fit a 30″ opening.

So Easy Peasy!

The steam oven has been working for few months now and I LOVE IT!! It is so easy to use, and everything I’ve made in it comes out perfect. Steam ovens are widely used in commercial kitchens. Steam creates amazing crusts on bread, and restaurants use them to reheat food. A steam oven reheats food so that it tastes freshly made. Most items can be reheated within 10-15 minutes. I use the reheat feature several times a week. It takes a little longer than microwaving but the food comes out tasting as good as it originally did, and it stays hot longer.

The oven can steam soft-boiled eggs, corn on the cob and other vegetables, rice, custards, and much more. There is a combination steam-convection setting to use for chicken, pork, and baked goods. One thing I really like is that it also doubles as an a convection oven. Since it’s smaller, in the summer I use it to avoid heating my bigger wall unit. While it is smaller than a traditional oven, you can fit a 14-pound turkey in and it’s ready in less than 90 minutes! A few weeks ago, I made a pork tenderloin and it was delicious.

What It Makes

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One of the reasons I’m sharing my steam oven with you is that there aren’t a lot of reviews on them online. Believe me, I searched high and low before I decided to invest in this little oven. If you missed it before, here are the links for our kitchen/dining room/family room remodel: HERE and HERE. In the posts, I share before and after pictures of our remodel and give you the highs and lows that occurred during the process.

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My kitchen. The Thermador convection steam oven is at the top left.

 

Just in care you were wondering,this post is not sponsored by Thermador or anyone else. It’s just my opinion, based on my own experiences. 

Empty Nest…My Top Ten Coping Strategies

It’s August, and for thousands of Mom’s out there, this will signal the beginning of the empty nest. I was there myself, 11 years ago this month. I’m not going to lie, it was a very difficult time in my life. Like you, I loved my children beyond reason. I couldn’t imagine not seeing them daily to know they were okay. I’d spent my whole adult life being a Mom. How was I going to adjust to and navigate through this new phase of my life?

What Now?

Contributing to my sense of loss was the fact that my daughters and I enjoyed a lot of activities together. My husband was somewhat of a work-a-holic and worked nights while they were growing up. After our older daughter went of to college, I’d bonded even more with my younger daughter. We had similar tastes, like shopping, and since she didn’t have a driver’s license when her sister left for college, I chauffeured her around a lot over the following year.

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Our girls

I didn’t have a big support system outside of my family. My husband tried so hard to support me once we had our empty nest. He’d probably been dreading how I was going to handle this new stage of my life. The first few months after my younger daughter started college were emotionally draining, but we saw our daughters frequently. First it was my husbands birthday, then mine, then Thanksgiving, and Christmas.

In January, though, reality set in. After several months of living on a roller coaster, I was just getting my footing and then it was summer break. It worked out well, though, our daughter had a local summer internship and she was busy with work and friends. When she left to return to college at the end of summer, it was much easier letting go.

My Empty Nest Advice

Adapting to a new phase of life isn’t easy, but there are things we can do to mitigate it. Here are the Top Ten strategies I recommend to help:

  1. Find a new hobby, or take up an old one you enjoyed before the kids took over.
  2. Join a gym. It’s a great way to relieve stress.
  3. If you’re married, schedule a romantic vacation for the two of you. Within the first few months, if at all possible. Something relaxing that will allow you plenty of time for fun together.
  4. Splurge on a spa day, if you can, within the first few weeks. At the least, get a massage.
  5. Make a bucket list of things you’d like to accomplish or places to visit.
  6. Work on your support system of female friends, unless you have a well-established one. Join a Bible study or book club, plan a girl’s night out, lunch dates with friends, or even a girl’s trip.
  7. Keep a journal to write about your feelings. It provides an outlet for your feelings and if you’re struggling it will help reinforce your progress.
  8. When your kid calls, show enthusiasm and curiosity about their college (or military) experience. Be the kind of person they want to call to share their new experiences and challenges with. My daughters called me while they were walking to and from class, usually a few times a day.
  9. Seek out others, online or in person, who are experiencing an empty nest, too. Misery loves company, right?
  10. Get a new pet. I’d always wanted a cocker spaniel and in the year preceding our empty nest, I started researching breeders. The month before our younger daughter started college, I went to pick up my new puppy, Oliver. There’s nothing like a new puppy to fill up your free time!

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Research shows that the empty nest is a time when many long-term marriages fail. The kids are gone and all the sudden you find you don’t have anything in common anymore. We were guilty of being parents first and partners second, and it was obvious when the kids left home. Be pro-active, take that romantic vacation and find a hobby together.

Love the New You

I found me after the empty nest, and you will, too! I went from working part-time, to working full-time in an exciting new professional field. After our girls finished college, I returned to college to finish my degree. My husband and I started traveling, our new hobby, and we’ve taken some amazing trips together. And, when we were done paying for college, and our girls were on their own, we enjoyed our newfound disposable income.

Empty Nester Benefits

The funniest part of our empty nest transformation was how we started redecorating and updating our house. Our house miraculously stayed cleaner and picked up! The kids would come home and marvel at the changes in the house.

I think the turning point came after a weekend visit from our girls. It was Monday night and the hubby and I talking about how much we were enjoying the peace and quiet. I realized then that our quiet and orderly existence was now the norm! After that, we would celebrate on Monday nights after our girl’s post-weekend visits, with a glass of wine and a nice, quiet dinner. You’ll get there, I promise.